As a mental health professional, over and over again I see that poor boundaries are a source of much pain and anxiety. This blog is the beginning of a four-part series to help you:
– define boundaries
– understand the origin of your boundaries
– create healthy boundaries
– keep those boundaries
Dr. Ryan Howes, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist in Pasadena, California, says that boundaries are “the line where I end and someone else begins.” Boundaries allow us to draw a line and create a safe space from those who try to encroach on us.
When we create boundaries in our lives, we are telling the world that we are important. We say that our lives matter enough to be respected. Instead of letting go of our own needs and desires, we make boundaries that honor who we are as humans. This will lead to more satisfaction, increased self-esteem, and a happier life.
The opposite of healthy boundaries are poor boundaries. These types of boundaries show no definition between oneself and others. When we have unhealthy boundaries, we feel lost and forgotten by others. We also lose sight of our own needs and wants. Instead, our desires become the same desires of another person. We lose who we are.
Our next blog will focus on understanding the origin of our boundaries. If you want to talk to someone about creating healthy boundaries in your life, give us a call. We find that creating boundaries is the key to living the life you want.